THE MOTHER OF FIVE NAVIGATED THE PARENTAL WATERS WITH SINGULAR GRACE, EXTRAORDINARY ELEGANCE AND UNMATCHED DIGNITY.

 

By Steve Flink

November 10, 2020

 

When the news came my way that Colette Evert had passed away at 92 last Thursday, it hit me awfully hard. She was an extraordinary woman I had known well since 1972, and was the matriarch of a close-knit and strikingly accomplished family of seven, joining forces with her singularly devoted teaching pro husband Jimmy to raise five remarkable children—including their renowned daughter Chris—in Fort Lauderdale, Fla

The Everts rank right up there among the greatest tennis families of all time. All five of the kids reached at least the final of a national junior tournament. John Evert now runs the Evert Tennis Academy in Boca Raton. Drew established himself as a successful teaching pro. Clare was a top-flight junior and perhaps the most gregarious member of the family. The late Jeanne Evert resided among the U.S. Top 10 in the 1970s.

All of the Evert kids were guided magnificently in their tennis pursuits by Jimmy Evert, a man of unimpeachable character who established himself as one of the finest teaching pros, coaches and disciplinarians ever to serve the sport. He taught for decades at the highly regarded Holiday Park in Fort Lauderdale, and was so revered that the city renamed the facility after him in 1997. In many ways, Jimmy Evert was every bit as much of a tennis institution as Chrissie, and he was deservedly lauded by many authorities as the anchor of the family. He was unassailable.

Yet Colette was the parent of all tennis parents in my view. That role is never easy to play, and many who have found themselves immersed in that endeavor have understandably been engulfed by their passion for their children and their insatiable need to see their kids succeed. Sitting on the sidelines and observing an offspring in the field of competition has drowned too many parents in a river of well-intended yet excessive emotions. Parental obsessions can be counter-productive and even destructive. Young players have been overwhelmed by parents asking too much of them.

The Evert family at their home in Florida in 1972. (Getty Images)

Colette navigated those parental waters with singular grace, extraordinary elegance and unmatched dignity. Over the years, I crossed paths with her in a multitude of settings, including her home; the courts at Holiday Park, Wimbledon and the US Open; pro tournaments in Florida; and in Newport, when her daughter was inducted at the International Tennis Hall of Fame in 1995. I observed up close the commendable way she set herself apart as the mother of a player who happened to be a celebrity.

I met Colette in 1972, and by a few years later I had become a friend of the entire family. They were all outstanding individuals with inimitable traits, and Colette intermingled with everyone inside and outside the family with an everlasting social ease.

“She was so gracious, always cheering for my opponent, never a bad word for anyone,” Chrissie tells me, reflecting on her mother’s life. “She was always sweet and kind to everyone, balancing our lives to be not all tennis. Her dedication as a wife and mother was solid and unmatched. She was the definition of goodness. My mother was a saint.”

I can attest to all of those sentiments. Over the years, I sat with Colette at many of Chrissie’s matches, most notably at the US Open. And she would unfailingly applaud not only for her daughter but for those competing against Chrissie. Colette was a model of decorum.

When I sat with her at the US Open semifinals and finals in the 1970s and ’80s, for instance, she would invariably be apprehensive with so much riding on the outcomes of these contests. Between points I would try to offer encouragement because Colette had so much respect for those who stood on the other side of the net from her daughter. She wanted reassurance to calm her nerves.

At the changeovers, there was time for us to talk a bit longer and weigh in on what was going on. She would ask me, “Do you think Chrissie can pull out this set?” Or perhaps say, “She looks confident, don’t you think?”

But not once did I hear her say anything even remotely critical about other players. She knew the game very well but never saw herself as a deep student of the game or an expert like her husband. She was simply a proud parent hoping her daughter would win.

Jimmy stayed almost entirely away from the arena through the bulk of Chrissie’s career; the tension was too much for him and his high blood pressure could rise, so he stayed home and either watched on television or waited for the phone call as soon as it was over. He did come to New York and witnessed her last two US Open triumphs, in 1980 and 1982, and he was present for the last tournament appearance of Chrissie’s career at the 1989 US Open. But Colette would be at the Open year in and year out, sometimes joined by her other children.

 

Across the board, from Pam Shriver to Martina Navratilova, Virginia Wade to Evonne Goolagong, Rosie Casals to Billie Jean King, the players celebrated Colette for her decency, warmth and innate class. The same could be said for the tennis community at large—they all appreciated her supreme generosity of spirit and unselfish manner.

 

Colette was as good a person as one could ever meet- and a role model for all tennis parents... RIP Colette Evert...

— Martina Navratilova (@Martina) November 9, 2020

 

I saw those qualities repeatedly on display across the years. Colette and Jimmy invited my wife, Frances, and me to their home a bunch of times, but most memorable was a 1985 visit. Colette cooked a sumptuous lamb dinner and served an incredible apple cake for dessert, later sending Frances that recipe. We spoke about a wide range of topics over the course of that meal, touching on the emergence of young players like Gabriela Sabatini and Steffi Graf, and the changing face of the game.

 

“I guess Chrissie was lucky to come along when she did,” said Colette. “Timing is so important.”

 

I replied, “I don’t think it would have made much difference. Chrissie was going to be a champion in any era she played.”